![How To Ask For What You Really Want [EP 215]](https://s3.castbox.fm/36/50/05/f81e440be0e7304877e304ecf0ed4b368c_scaled_v1_400.jpg "How To Ask For What You Really Want [EP 215]")
How To Ask For What You Really Want [EP 215]
Update: 2025-07-25
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If you want to supercharge the intimacy in any relationship, think about the asks that you don't ask.
In this episode, I will teach you how to name those asks, how to deshame them, and how to present them in a way that leads to greater closeness with your friends, with your family, in your love relationship, and with yourself.
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- 01:59 Asking as an act of self-love
- 09:25 How unspoken needs harm connection
- 16:15 Self-honoring exercises you can try
- 20:45 Why big asks reveal relationship truth
- 21:52 Awkwardness, risk, and intimacy growth
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